A groundbreaking, practical program for transforming troubled relationships into positive onesThis is the best book on relationships I have ever read. . . . John Gottman has decoded the subtle secrets that can either enrich or destroy the quality of our ties with others. Daniel B. Wile, Ph.D., author of After the Fight: Using Your Disagreements to Build a Stronger RelationshipJohn Gottman is our leading explorer of the inner world of relationships. In The Relationship Cure, he has found gold once again.William J. Doherty, Ph.D., author of Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World That Pulls Us ApartWhen he says his five steps will help you build better connections with the people you care about, you know that they have been demonstrated to work. E. Mavis Heatherington, Ph.D., professor of psychology, University of VirginiaFrom the countrys foremost relationship expert and New York Times bestselling author Dr. John M. Gottman comes a powerful, simple five-step program, based on twenty years of innovative research, for greatly improving all of the relationships in your lifewith spouses and lovers, children, siblings, and even your colleagues at work. In The Relationship Cure, Dr. Gottman:* Reveals the key elements of healthy relationships, emphasizing the importance of what he calls emotional connection* Introduces the powerful new concept of the emotional bid, the fundamental unit of emotional connection* Provides remarkably empowering tools for improving the way you bid for emotional connection and how you respond to others bids...
|Title||:||The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships|
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|Number of Pages||:||336 pages|
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The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships Reviews
This book reminded me that I don't love self-help books. It had some interesting points that made me think more about bidding and recognizing bids, but the self assessments were too long and difficult, over the top,l. I feel like this could easily have been condensed down to relationships in general instead of basically repeating itself for each type of relationship (children, coworkers, siblings, marriage etc). Didn't dig deep enough for me to be really captivated by any of the ideas being pres ...more
Even though I read other Gottman books, this book had new material and covered a wider variety of topics: emotional bids (which are the basic unit of relationships), how to succeed in making and receiving bids to improve relationships, emotional command systems (which are archetypes of motivation such as nest building), emotional heritage, emotional communication (such as facial expressions and metaphors), shared meaning, rituals, and applications to a variety of relationship types. The importan ...more
I read this for a family communication class and loved it. It was way better than having to read a textbook (which we also had to read in the class). It's a great tool to evaluate how you communicate in all your relationships, whether it be with friends, family, or with a significant other. While it is technically a self help book, those interested in interpersonal communication will benefit from reading this. Forget Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, The Relationship Cure is the book you ...more
This is a very important book. It's essentially Emotional Intelligence 101 — the Dummies version — and I generally mean that in a very good way. I kind of wish everyone could read this book. Since starting it, I have spontaneously applied something I have learned from it practically every day, and I can see the difference it makes in all sorts of human transactions and relationships.
That said, I'm not a fan of the author's writing style. He's a bit of an over-analytical geek, he's a little too f ...more
Ah, John Gottman. Such wonderful research, such terrible titles.
Anyway, I already had to return this book to the library so I can only give you my impressions-- as my sister says, "the spaghetti that's stuck to the wall." So here goes:
Interactions involve people making "bids" for attention, affection, connection. When we respond successfully to others' bids, we are able to make strong and resilient relationships at home, work, school.
When someone makes a bid, you can respond either by turning t ...more
We all use 1Cbids 1D to try and establish connections with the people in our lives. There are three responses to every bid for connection. 1 13 to turn towards the bid, 2 13 to turn away , or 3 13 to turn against. Gottman explores how our parental connections in the past affect how we bid today. He also explores how we can use body language, metaphors, and personality traits to help figure out other people 19s bids and responses. Fascinating and helpful information, especially helpful in the rel ...more
Very interesting book about what makes relationships work or fail to work. The premise is that relationships are built from bids for connection, which can be anything from making a comment to inviting someone to lunch, requesting help, or touching someone. The other person in the relationship can respond in one of three ways:
- turning toward the bid: responding in a way that conveys "I heard you, and I care," ranging from nodding or making a face in agreement to a serious emotional response. Thi ...more