In this beautifully written, poignant, honest, and unflinching work, the author takes readers with her on her journey through grief and discovery as she finds out for good or ill who her parents really were. - Library Journal (starred review)Anya Yurchyshyn grew up in a narrow townhouse in Boston, every corner filled with the souvenirs of her parents adventurous international travels. On their trips to Egypt, Italy, and Saudi Arabia, her mother, Anita, and her father, George, lived an entirely separate life from the one they led as the parents of Anya and her sister one that Anya never saw. The parents she knew were a brittle, manipulative alcoholic and a short-tempered disciplinarian: people she imagined had never been in love. But when she cleaned out her childhood home in the wake of her mother's death, she discovered artifacts of a life and a love affair that she didn't recognize--letters, photos of exotic locales, and startling documents that revealed hidden pasts and forced her to rethink everything she thought she knew about her life and her family. Determined to learn who her parents had really been, she embarks on a journey of discovery and encounters truths she could have never imagined. Part literary thriller, part detective story, My Dead Parents is the account of one woman's relentless quest to solve the tragic and complex mysteries of her past, and in so doing, to come more fully to terms with her life today....
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My Dead Parents: A Memoir Reviews
My Dead Parents is a memoir written by the youngest daughter. She describes a childhood inundated with a demanding, largely absentee father and a mother increasingly spiraling into extreme alcoholism. After both parents' deaths, the author pieces together the story of her parents' lives, their marriage, and begins to see and comprehend more than she had before. In the end, I think she made peace with the difficulties of her past and came to accept her parents for who they were. Thanks to NetGall ...more
Anya's childhood in Boston was anything but pleasant. Her father, George traveled constantly, living in foreign countries but she remembers him primarily distant and abusive before his death in the Ukraine by car accident. Her mother, Anita, an alcoholic who turned the notch up on her use after her husband's death, seemed indifferent to her children at best, resentful and demeaning as only some of the worst. Following Anita's death, Anya takes on the task of going through her mother's home.....a ...more
On average I choose to abandon two books a year. This year, this is the second in a month. Both were on lists of must read books, which indicates that others really enjoyed them. I wasn’t enjoying this memoir to the point where I really didn’t want to pick it up at all. My heart hurts for the author. Very sad story but I felt like a weight was lifted when I returned it to the Library.
Okay so. I had just received this book when my father fell very ill and was brought home in hospice care. I began reading it after he passed on Christmas Day. There is little similarity between the relationship Anya had with her parents but so much in common as I navigated my grief by seeking to understand who my father was before me. As Anya sought answers from the Ukraine, I sought answers from the shores of Vietnam revealing my father's time there and what would eventually explain the missing ...more
I received an Advance Reading Copy (ARC) from Netgalley.com in return for a fair review. Unfortunately, this book was not my cup of tea, but it did have its redeeming qualities--especially near the end. As children, we often see our parents through narrow tunnel vision. We don't see them as distinct individuals with dreams, desires and personalities outside of our own perspective. This book is a good reminder that parents are people, too--not just guardians of little ones. Ms. Yurchyshyn had a t ...more
Thanks to First to Read for access to a pre-publication galley of My Dead Parents. The first 1/3 of the memoir was difficult to read as Anya describes growing up with her verbally/emotionally abusive father George and her neglectful alcoholic mother Anita. Unsurprisingly, Anya’s dysfunctional upbringing results in her becoming a sullen, challenging teenager who rejects her parents in retaliation for their treatment of her. I initially found it hard to empathize with any of these seriously flawed ...more
I like it when narratives offer distance. To me, not enough time has passed and not enough therapy hours have been clocked in by Yurchyshyn to make her a good narrator of this story. There is too much trauma in the way she tells it, and too much space dedicated to her figuring out if she should perceive her flawed parents as humans or not. On a human level, I understand and relate, coming from a dysfunctional family myself. But this does not make good storytelling. Yurchyshyn is clearly very tal ...more
My Dead Parents by: A Memoir by Anya Yurchyshyn is a 2018 Crown publication.
The blurb for this book intrigued me. What would it be like to discover your parents were nothing like you thought they were? What would happen if you discovered your father’s death might have been more than a tragic accident?
I confess, I did have a few preconceived notions about this book. I thought the book would be centered mainly around Anya’s investigation into her father’s ‘accident’. However, the bulk of the boo ...more